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4 Reasons You Shouldn’t “Conquer” Fear

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“Conquer fear!” “Overcome Fear!” “No Fear!”

It feels like the impossible battle cry doesn’t it? Lets flip the lens around for a minute. Maybe we’re being a little too harsh on fear.

Is there a better alternative than constantly thinking of fear as an enemy to be destroyed or overcome?

I don’t think the problem is that we experience fear. The problem is, we’re not in the habit of utilizing fear as an asset or tool that can be useful when needed, and set aside when its not.

We too often put fear to work in situations where it’s not serving our current need. It’s often like using a cannon to cut a wedding cake. Messy!

We would be well served in remembering that there are only TWO fears that we are actually born with. The fear of falling, and the fear of loud noises. All of our other fears come from things we’ve “learned.” And you already know that everything we “learn” isn’t necessarily true. (more…)

4 Strategies to Permanently Change What You Want & Improve Your Life

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It’s so maddening isn’t it? Here we are, trying to improve ourselves. Doing the right things. Wanting to make a positive change in our life. New eating habits, new career path, no more smoking. We jump onto the road to a wonderful new life and we absolutely ROCK IT — for a while…

Then it happens. We let that stupid rubber band around our waist pull us back to the old routine. Just one cigarette, just one workout skipped. We’ll read that book later. You see and feel your wonderful new change slipping away.

How in the world did it happen…again?!

This time we had a “good” plan in place — dude, I even put those running shoes in the hallway so I couldn’t avoid ‘em! We had our diet plan, a list of to-do’s at the office. Ha! We even trashed our lighter and ashtray! The plan was foolproof!

Yes, I am making light of a serious problem. I humbly suggest you do the same. Anger and frustration solve nothing, but a little levity and an objective look at the real problem just may lead us to a solution.

Plus, I’m actually laughing at myself! I’ve experienced this mind numbing phenomena in many areas in my life. Quitting smoking, improving my eating and exercise habits, improving my career…

You’re not alone.

So, what gives? Why does it seem so hard to make changes, permanently? The problem is, no matter how well intentioned and worthy your goals may be. No matter how many meals we plan, running shoes we buy, cigarettes we flush, if we’ve failed to address some internal issues, we’re going to have a problem. Let’s attack this issue head on… (more…)